3. Be very eager to help
And this one is a little bit more on the manipulative. This is where you tell the narcissist things that boost their ego, and hopefully, as a result of that, you might get something you want. So with that eagerness to help, you’ll say something along the lines of,“ wow, I see that you’re really busy, you always seem so busy. So what I’m going to do for you is I’m going to take care of some of this little petty [ __ ] for you. You’re way too important to be doing that stuff. Something like that.
The key to this here is, of course, that natural ego boost. But what you’re actually looking for is if you’re nice to them in that kind of idea, they might offer to help you back. And in doing this, you might actually get something that you want on your end.
It doesn’t always work, but it is worth a shot. You might as well try and get something out of it. And even if that part doesn’t work for you, you’ve given them a little bit of an ego boost, and again, happy, calm, not fighting, everything’s just very low. The fire is low on the stove.
4 . Keep negativity to yourself
Narcissists act out in a lot of super scummy ways. They do and act out a lot of behavior that is pretty disturbing [ __ ], and they do this with a lack of guilt, empath,y and a lack of a lot of other things.
But what’s really important with this one is when you’re presented with something that frankly grosses you out and disgusts you, you remain incredibly neutral. You can’t be bothered one way or the other. You don’t pretend to be super excited about whatever grossness it is, but you also don’t get really angry, or really sad. And You can’t lash out, or text, and call, or something you can’t react.
And reacting in a negative way is just that’s the whole point here, which is what the narcissist wants. This is where the gray rock method or technique however you want to say it can come into play here, which if you’re in the position where you have to deal with a narcissist, you should be learning how to execute gray rock skills like an absolute master and champion of that craft.
Keep all that negativity to yourself. Vent it in private, vented to other people, but never allow the narcissist that reaction. But as you learn more about gray rock, you’ll see how to do that. It’s very self-explanatory.
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