Lesson to Learn from The Gabby Petito Case


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2. It does not take two to tango.

  Many people assume in these situations that both partners are equally abusive and equally at fault. That is simply a myth and does not apply to nearly all abusive relationships. So this is a mistake to assume that the old saying it takes two to tango is true when it’s an abusive relationship and one of the people is a malignant narcissist.

 It’s unfortunate that more people, including the police officers who pulled them over, weren’t aware that in narcissistically abusive situations. It is the narcissist putting the complete blame on the victim, and usually the victim taking complete responsibility for what happened as well because the victim has been severely gaslighted and has been psychologically abused and conditioned to believe that their abuser’s attacks are actually their fault.

 In narcissistically abusive relationships, most people get this situation exactly backward. That’s an important fact and statistic to understand first and foremost. So lesson number two, it does not take two to tango.

3. Trauma is not a mental illness!

  A lot of people assumed that Gabby was the abuser and that Brian had been attacked by a mentally unstable female because Brian had scratch marks on his face- those are defense wounds. The reality is that Brian had been attacking and slapping her who was stuck in the car with nowhere to go.

 Narcissists loved to attack their victims in the car for exactly that reason. The victim is stuck, no one else is a direct witness, and the narcissist can abuse and terrorize the victim as long as they like. I cannot tell you how many times the narcissist in my life choose to abuse and attack me when I was stuck in the car with them.

 So lesson number three, just because a traumatized person is crying or distraught, does not under any circumstances mean the person has a mental illness. Trauma and traumatization is not a mental illness.

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