Next, while Gabby and Brian were in the van after the episode in the parking lot at the coffee shop, Brian was slapping her and grabbing her face. Again, after he had intentionally provoked this entire episode and gets her incredibly upset, once she gets in the car, witnesses say they saw him slapping her in the face.
I’m going to say it again, narcissists love to abuse victims when they are in the car because the victim has no way out. This is very common in narcissistic abusive relationships. Brian got a narcissistic injury from Gabby working too long on her blog in the coffee shop. Her attention was not solely focused on him and that caused a narcissistic injury.
When a narcissist gets a narcissistic injury, that injury must be accounted for, paid for, alleviated, neutralized, whatever you want to call it. And the way narcissists feel relief from a narcissistic injury is by abusing someone else, in this case, Gabby Petito. Narcissistic injuries produce narcissistic rage, and in my opinion, that’s exactly what happened here, and Gabby was at the receiving end of this narcissistic rage, stuck in a van with no way out. And the abuse no doubt escalated once Brian felt they were alone without any onlookers.
So lesson number 11, narcissists abused their victims in places hidden from everyone else, their public and private personas could not be any more different.
Next, they eventually got pulled over and Gabby was traumatized and crying very hard. And as I have mentioned before, the police officers separate the two, and because Brian was calm, cool, and collected, and gabby was traumatized and crying, the assumption is that Gabby was the unstable one and that Brian was the calm one who was only trying to calm Gabby down. And this is the assumption that so many people make when they see abusive relationships like this. And it is the wrong assumption, dead wrong. In this case, it cost this poor girl her life.
A book: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
In closing, I would like to make a couple of remarks: Narcissistic abuse can be perpetrated by a man or a woman, NPD does not discriminate between males or females. There are many cases that could be analyzed to show that females have done this to males, Jodi Arias Case one of them. Also, if you are struggling with issues associated with narcissistic abuse, please, contact a professional for support. If you are in immediate danger, please contact the police or the domestic abuse hotline.
Read more: 7 Signs You Are A Victim Of Narcissistic Abuse
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