It’s something we refer to as “double standards”. What is a double standard? According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary: “It is a set of principles that applies differently and usually more rigorously to one group of people or circumstances than to another.”
We know narcissists are self-absorbed, self-centered, self-preserving, their wants and needs come first, but on top of that, narcissists have great expectations or demands when it comes to others. They expect your full commitment, they expect the whole truth and nothing but the truth, they expect loyalty, they expect transparency, they expect no secrets, and they expect unconditional love.
Basically, when it comes to the narcissist, it’s one rule for them and one for you. They will cheat on you, lie to you, keep loads of secrets from you, but how dare you do that to them in return. Narcissists have double standards, they want the very best from you, but then you should settle or just be happy with the breadcrumbs they give you in return.
I have been speaking a lot about empathy this week, and I think this type of behavior is typical of someone who lacks empathy. They don’t understand how something is okay for them but not for you. They are not able to place themselves in your shoes to consider how their words or actions may affect you. All they can think about is themselves.
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