6. No More Love-Bombing.
Last on the list is no more love-bombing. There will be no affection, compliments, or kindness. And for romantic couples, no more s*x or I love you. There will be no more cycles of devaluation and then love-bombing, it will just be a traumatic devaluation phase to ensure that they break your spirit as much as they can.
Basically, all the negative things I have gone through are all you can expect day in and day out when a Narcissist has no use for you any longer. They withdraw any affection to make it clear that they do not want you anymore.
But what the Narcissist is also doing with everything I have mentioned is they are trying to provoke you to lash out at them. That will be the icing on the cake to make their discard of you justified in the eyes of all those around. Or, for you to conclude, that you cannot put up with them any longer. But in either case, the Narcissist will play the victim. And the cold and hostile environment that the Narcissist creates is to drive you to a point of no return.
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The Narcissist is hoping that all their harsh treatments and withholding of affection will drive you mad. They want you to scream at them or hit them in order to try and bring some understanding to the confusion and pain that you are experiencing. Breaking you mentally, spiritually, and physically is the only thing that will bring them pleasure. Because when a Narcissist no longer has need of you, they don’t want anyone to, either. They want when they leave your life it remains in shambles.
Because although Narcissists will start hoovering, if you are able to make a come-back, they are only coming back to destroy you again. They simply do not want you to recover. They simply do not want you to be happy. And they will always prefer if you remain down and out, and they will take pride in the fact that it was them that ruined you.
But also, when a Narcissist has taken everything they can from you or if they are not able to control you, your very existence anger and disgusts them. Because when a Narcissist is finished with you, they just want you eliminated, erased, and never to rise again. But the Narcissist will not always get what they want because, at the end of the day, all victims of Narcissistic Abuse can survive and thrive. And we can turn the tables and drive them crazy just by living our best lives without them.
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