9. Focus On Your Healing.
Focus so much on your own healing and recovery that there’s no room to second guess yourself, or your decision to take care of yourself. When we’re focused entirely on living in the solution, as opposed to the problem, everything changes for the better, and faster than you imagine. You want to do this for yourself. Not least of which, because this way, you won’t have time to fret about what the narcissist is doing, what they’re saying about you, or who they’re saying it to.
Decide not to fall for the manipulation, and hoovering ploys. Decide not to take on their BS. You know, the BS they say to and about you, and your decision to walk away and stay away. Deciding to take care of yourself is far more important than selling your soul trying to win the love, acceptance, validation, and approval of people who do not know, never have, and never will have it to give. Decide you will no longer be a source of narcissistic supply through your energy or your high voltage reaction to a toxic vampiric entity.
Let them call you crazy, a coward, juvenile, immature, mean, bitter, angry. Let them say you’re the problem. You’re afraid to face them. You’re a runner, or whatever narrative they might be running with. Who cares what they think? Be so busy taking care of yourself that that nonsense can’t land. And if it does, if it’s too hard for you to not be affected, the reality is you have work to do. So focus on doing your work.
And believe me, I know from experience that when they know they have zero power over you, you can expect the classic smear campaign, which of course, includes lying outright, lying by omission, and using truth out of context to manipulate the perceptions of, and poison the minds and hearts of others towards you. Sadly, children even.
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Now they do this for no other reason than to hurt you because you know, how dare you reject, and abandon the narcissist? Imagine the audacity we have, right? To retaliate, they will, you can count on that. Remember, you need peace, calm, emotional sobriety, and wellbeing, not the last word, or winning the right fight. So put your ego aside, and go for peace, go for closure. You don’t need the last word. They won’t hear you anyway. So let your absence and your silence speak for themselves. It’ll be far more powerful than anything you could say. I promise.
As always, I’m gonna leave you with this: Know your value, know your value, and unlock your freedom. Much love.
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