1. I love to control you
When the narcissist says I love you, what he or she is really saying is I love the power and control I have over you. They love the fact that you have fallen prey to their manipulation tactics, and have bought into believing the image of the false self that they are absolutely dependent on having you reflect back to them.
They love that you have so willingly been completely deceived and that you are following the protocol that demands they be in complete control.
2. I love your attention and adoration
When they say I love you, what they’re really saying is I love the continual attention and adoration you give to me. That you are reflecting back to me the image I want to believe, which is that I’m special, that I am perfect, that I am superior to everyone else around us.
I love that you are an unending source of narcissistic supply, whether that be with a positive narcissistic supply that you give me in the form of adoration, or negative supply in the ways that I can make you feel terrible about yourself.
And I love that anytime I need a hit of positive or negative narcissistic supply, I can get either as quickly as I want from you. I can tell you that I love you, and get a hit of positive narcissistic supply, and watch you try and try to keep me in this moment of being loving and kind, or when I need a hit of your negative supply, and I can devalue, criticize, and humiliate you and watch the pain and distress I inflict on you.
Both are continual and never-ending streams of supply, and I love that you readily give it to me.
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