As I mentioned at the beginning of the article, the narcissist definition of love and our definition are two completely different things. The reality is that we typically define love as unconditional, kind, supportive, empathetic, and a real partnership. Narcissists define love as what you are giving to them in the form of narcissistic supply.
And to the narcissist, love is the reflection you provide back to them that supports the image of the false self. To us, love is unconditional, a give and take. To a narcissist, love is completely conditional. Love to them means you give and give and they take and take. And as long as that’s happening, I have no doubt that they indeed do love you.
What’s important for the victim to understand is that this is not a reflection of your worth, your value, or your ability to be loved in the real sense of the word, but are rather a reflection of who and what the narcissist is. And again, as I often say, it’s nothing personal. The narcissist would and will treat anyone like this given the opportunity.
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