4. Knock you down.
Once the narcissist is triggered by your strength, confidence, courage, and personal power, in addition to discrediting and smearing you to others, the narcissist will also jump at every opportunity to knock you down a peg or two. They’ll happily point out any mistakes, flaws, failings, or perceived shortcomings, lest you think too highly of yourself, feel good about yourself in any way, or again, God forbid, anyone, see you in a favorable light.
They’ll also hold your history and any past mistakes you’ve made over your head with a bizarre sense of glee. This is just one more tactic they’ll use to undermine your sense of self-worth and self-esteem. They’ll take great delight in literally holding your past against you and do so by holding it up like an old picture on the wall they simply refuse to take down.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
No matter how far you’ve come, no matter how much you’ve grown, or how much you may have changed in the years or decades since. Anything they can latch onto can and will be used against you. They’ll also take great pleasure in honing in on any vulnerabilities with deliberate intent to cause you to second guess yourself, doubt yourself, and again, question your worth.
In other words, they will deliberately manufacture and amplify any feelings of guilt, shame, fear, inadequacy, and insecurity within you for no other reason than to keep you in line and feeling inferior, when in reality, it’s their own deeply buried, disowned feelings of inferiority that drive all of this nonsense and insanity. And unless you’ve been on the receiving end of this sort of emotional and psychological abuse, it can be difficult to fathom that people can be this kind of cruel for no other reason than their own fear, shame, and insecurities have been triggered. But I assure you, it happens every day, all day long in the realm of narcissistic abuse.
So, what’s the solution?
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