1. Trauma bonding
Trauma bonding is a strong emotional attachment between the victim and the abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of abuse. And trauma bonding is the misuse of fear. It’s a misuse of excitement in sexual feelings to entangle another person. So the narcissists take advantage of your emotions, they exploit your emotions to their advantage, and they are doing this intentionally to keep you trapped. You are being loyal to someone that is completely sabotaging you, destroying you.
The natural ability for humans to emotionally bond with the people around them tends to work against you when the person that you love is abusing you and mistreating you. Trauma bonding is what keeps you trapped and keeps you coming back for more and more, and so you become addicted to the emotional rollercoaster that the narcissist puts you on.
A psychologically abusive relationship is a roller coaster of punishment and then intermittent reinforcement of kindness when you behave. So the narcissist gives you crumbs here and crumbs there, and then when you don’t do what they want you to do, they pull back.
Now that is abuse, and that is a manipulative tactic that narcissists love to do, and this is a continuous back and forth cycle. You tend to believe the love bombing in the beginning phases of a narcissistic relationship and the idolizing.
So when the narcissist mass begins to slip and you see the narcissist for who they really are, you start to blame yourself for the narcissist’s behavior or convince yourself that the narcissist is acting out of character.
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