5. Cognitive dissonance
You lie to yourself or Gaslight yourself about the reality of the situation, in order to rationalize the conflict in your mind that arises when you stay in a toxic relationship, that is not congruent with the way that you know it should be. We know that love is not someone abusing us and mistreating us, that is not loved.
So in this situation, you know that this person is abusing you, and you know that you’re not happy, but you stay. And a lot of time, it has to do with empathy. We feel like oh if we leave this person, we’re gonna hurt them, we don’t want to hurt anybody. So we choose to stay and think that things will get better over time.
But narcissists cannot get better. They are pathological. They cannot be cured. And they cannot be fixed.
Inclosing…
I want to say that leaving the narcissist involves the realization that you are a complete and whole person, and that you do not need the narcissist to make you happy or validate you in any way. Happiness comes from within. So you choose your own path and how your life will evolve. You define your own worth.
And the first step towards healing and recovery is to realize that separation from the narcissists and walking away from this abusive toxic monster is a good thing. You will find love, you will find healing, and there is hope, I promise you. You just have to take that first step, and things will get better. And you will heal.
Read more: How To Get Over Narcissistic Abuse | Top 10 Strategies
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