Why It’s Dangerous To Tell Narcissists They’re Narcissists

2. They will not listen.

Will they even care? Narcissists value their reputation. Everything they do, they do for public appearance. They know how important first impressions are and they do their best to try and keep their reputation spotless. But at the same time, they cannot seem to accept criticisms from others even if they are merely constructive ones.

No matter how an empath tries to get through to the narcissist for them to see what they are doing wrong or who they truly are, the narcissist will never be affected by this in any positive way. Narcissists are close-minded and stubborn people who just cannot care less and would never change for the better.

1. They will not change.

Can narcissists change for the better? Unlike empaths who are constantly checking themselves for ways they can improve, narcissists are blissfully ignorant of their shortcomings. Not only do they not put to proactively find ways to better themselves, but they also blatantly ignore people who try to help them change. Their errant belief that they are already perfect the way they are hinders them from wanting to change. If the person himself cannot see that need to change his ways, then no amount of talking or advice from others would ever make them see any difference.

The last and not the least reason why it is a bad idea for empaths to tell a narcissist that they are a narcissist is that they will never change. I talked in this article about 5 Reasons Why The Narcissist Won’t Change, you can check it out. You should realize that though they only want to help, some people are simply beyond their ability to help. Narcissists do not need friendly advice or even head-on confrontation. They need professional help just as anyone with a mental health problem does. Interacting with a narcissist is like gambling with odds stacked against you.

As an empath who is always looking for ways to help even the most vicious people, this risk does not seem to sink in until it is too late. Instead of trying to confront the narcissist and tell them that they are narcissistic, the best thing you should do is to stay away from such people who will only cause them pain.

Have you ever tried telling a narcissist that they are a narcissist? How did it go?