Number 7: Along the same lines, many female covert narcissists will start grading your performance.
For example, she might say you are only a six out of 10 last night or that vacation was only 40 percent of what I was expecting. And she will show this chronic dissatisfaction with the amount of affection or compliments you give, how much money you spent with whatever effort you put in, and she will be grading and measuring your performance to other people, to yourself, just letting you know that you’re not satisfying her, leaving you feeling like you’re on thin ice, always nitpicking at you, criticizing and putting you and your efforts down.
Again, no matter how hard you try and so she treats you as though your performance is the bare minimum and you need to step it up ASAP if you want to keep her. And if she is happy for a little while, you can count on this being followed up by more disappointment. If you grew up with a parent that you could never please, you may find yourself falling right in line with this familiar pattern of begging for crumbs of approval, and becoming pathetic try hard in a game that, like I said before, is completely rigged against you.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
So in case, you’re still uncertain, let me just say it clearly, you cannot win this game, it is a no-win situation, 100 of the time. Now, maybe you’ll need to keep trying a little harder, a little longer, to really believe this, but let me just say, be careful because you may find yourself stuck in her long game as your entire life passes You by.
Number 8: The covert narcissist will have a lot of boundaries that go one way.
Any boundaries or rules that you have will be disregarded, and if you need or want anything, it’s unimportant or stupid. The double standards when it comes to any type of boundaries are absolutely ridiculous.
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