6. “I don’t believe you.”
Now, this is close to number five, “that’s a lie”, but different in it simply states a few things with crystal clear clarity. A, you don’t take them seriously, and B, they have zero credibility with you. In other words, you’re onto them. They can’t lead you down the garden path, manipulate you, dominate you, or control you, and they can’t control your perception of reality, and that makes the narcissist one very unhappy little camper.
7. “Ok,” and silence.
Not another word. They want you to engage, they want a reaction. They thrive on the argument, the circular, mind-bending, never-ending crazy-making conversations. Take that away from them, you’re taking away their source of narcissistic supply, your vital life force energy that they feed off of, and they don’t like that.
A Book: Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed– by Wendy Behary.
8. “You’re entitled to your perception of me.
“I have no right to try to control your opinion of me.” Know this: When a narcissist is screaming at you, calling you names like, “You dumb this,” “You stupid that,” “You weak so-and-so, “You manipulative such-and-such,” or whatever mud they might be slinging when acting out like the irrational emotional toddler that they are in a fit of narcissistic rage, know that they are fully talking about themselves.
The more high voltage and intense the attack, the more projection is going on every single time. When they realize that you could care less and their opinion of you doesn’t even register on your radar, you can expect nuclear. They are selfish, self-centered, entitled, childish, powerless little humans, and my advice is to see it for what it is and do not let any of that stuff land on you.
Whatever you do, do not engage. Go live your life, go be happy, go be great. Rest assured, they’ll quickly find someone else to roll around in the mud with. They have to. That’s their comfort zone. They need the fight, the dominance, the control, the never-ending power dramas in order to feel alive. You know better so go do better and be better, without all the extra the narcissist brings to the table. Remember, these people do not change, and I have talked about this before: 5 Reasons Why The Narcissist Won’t Change.
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