6. Jealous of other men
One common behavior we see related to the sign is for the narcissistic husband to scrutinize the wife’s conversations with other men. He really wants to know every detail of what was said and what was meant by what was said. Like, being interested in the tone of the conversation, the nonverbal communication, hidden messages, and suggestions that may be occurring in that discussion.
And typically, how this plays out is that the husband keeps on asking until he finds something to latch on to, even if the conversations are really a knock you as’.
So essentially, he’s just conducting an interrogation. Waiting for some sort of slip-up, or looking for an opportunity to make a misinterpretation. And when he finds something he can latch on to, he’s going to accuse the wife of being interested in another man, spending too much time with another man, or getting too close to another man. The husband is going to provide reasons why he is a better choice as a mate than another man, even though the wife isn’t requesting that information.
Sometimes this can escalate to where the husband demands that the wife not have any contact with other men, which, of course, can be very disruptive. It can mean the wife leaves the workforce or abandons other social activities. So there’s an isolation component with this particular sign.
7. Envious of wife’s success
I want to clarify the difference here between envy and jealousy.
Envy is defined as unpleasant. Often painful emotion. Characterized by feelings of inferiority, hostility, and resentment, produced by an awareness that another person enjoys the desired possession. Envy is sometimes called the only unpleasant sin. Many people use the word jealousy and envy interchangeably, but we do see a distinction between the two.
Jealousy involves a third party and is caused by a fear of losing possession to a third party. And typically, the narcissist thinks of that possession as a person, specifically his wife. So this is like the behavior I mentioned inside number six.
The husband is envious of the wife’s success across many domains. Financial success, even if that financial success helps the narcissistic husband. Or social success like when the wife has friends.
The husband may suggest that the wife’s job title is inflated. So he may try to minimize her accomplishments. He might say, they call you a manager, who do you manage?
Where the husband may make fun of the job titles the wife has. Oh, you’re a supervisor. Is that they call the person who sits at a desk and does nothing? Where the husband might say, you’re a vice president. Isn’t that just a glorified secretary?
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