#5: They triangulate by text.
When a narcissist is alone, they are often on their phone, creating conflict, chaos, competition, and manipulating others from a distance, always stirring the pot, creating drama, and trying to gain a sense of control over people and situations. Since they have such a deep fear of being perceived as inadequate or flawed, they are often triangulating the people in their lives as a way to boost their own self-image and maintain control over their sources of supply.
Again, by creating conflict and competition, triangulation involves bringing third parties into a relationship dynamic, typically by comparing or contrasting one person with another. This tactic is used to isolate and gaslight others by sowing seeds of doubt, jealousy, and insecurity, creating division among these people, and making them more susceptible to the narcissist’s manipulations.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
#6: Ruminating.
When they are alone, narcissists may replay conversations or interactions in their minds, repetitively, selectively focusing on aspects of the conversation that reinforce their self-image as superior, successful, or admired. They might dwell on compliments that they received, instances where they asserted their dominance or control, or situations where they believe that they were the center of attention. By replaying these interactions, they seek to bolster their ego and maintain their inflated sense of self-importance.
Also, narcissists may sometimes fixate on perceived slights or criticisms during these mental replays, however, they usually reinterpret these situations in a way that minimizes any of their flaws or faults and instead place the blame on others or dismiss the criticism altogether.
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