Secret #4: Don’t forget the little things that charm your partner’s heart.
We get bored with those. We stop investing in those. Let’s say you once always left him his favorite chocolate in the fridge and now the fridge is empty. No chocolate, no nothing. Or maybe you knew that she loved flowers and you would bring her flowers. Now no flowers, everything’s done, nobody’s happy.
Commit to those teeny tiny little moments that charm your partner. That element of romance is so significant. And as women were such emotional connectors so that emotional nourishment and feeling that sense of, can be very important for us.
A lot of people with avoidant attachment styles may not indulge in those romantic things as much. And I invite you to use that as a growing exercise if you are an avoidant. And I also invite you to tap into what attachment styles are after reading this article.
If you’d like to learn more and understand the way we love and the way we receive love in that same breath, I recommend you to read the book ” The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman”. It’s essential if you’re looking for the specific things that you can do to charm your partner’s heart.
Know their love languages. Invest time into them. Invest even if it’s just an instant every week to show them that you love them. It never gets old. It’s always tender, always sweet, it’s always important, and it’s a huge secret to a long-term happy relationship.
Secret #5: A happy relationship is a balanced relationship.
The balance of power is a brief recap that existed in every single relationship. And it’s kind of how the power between two people EPS and flows back and forth. One day you might have a lot of power. The next day they might have a lot of the power.
The balance of power is huge. It’s a trick, it’s the secret sauce to a long-term healthy relationship. Making sure that you’re feeling validated, making sure that they’re feeling validated. Making sure that you give and receive the love that they Give.
Balance is huge that also means be mindful of insecurities. Be mindful of neediness smothering your partner, be mindful of negligence ignoring your partner. Those big neediness and negligence are on the opposite sides of the spectrum and they top all the balance of power and that directly impacts, feeling stable and safe.
The less balanced that is, the more unsafe we feel. The less we’re willing to trust the foundation of the relationship and before we know it whether we intend to or not, we’ve got one foot in and one foot out of our own damn relationships. And once we got one foot in one foot out, the rest starts to get uneasy.
Be mindful of the balance you can manage it. Go to those articles if you have no idea what I’m talking about but it is important. It is certainly a secret worth researching and investing.
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