5. Attentional migration
Why do you want to know every little thing about your partner? Normally, we only pay attention to the big stuff, life changes, crises, success stories, even with friends and family, we rarely pay attention to the tiny details of their lives, but romantic love changes the way we pay attention.
Physically and emotionally, we fall in love with the smallest details, we notice minuscule changes in a partner’s appearance, we notice insignificant quirks and habits, we care about the details of their day, the people they talk to, and even the food they ate. When you notice and care about these tiny details, your brain is in love.
6. Verbal grouping
When your partner makes plans do they say, I or we? After falling in love, our language begins to change, without realizing it, we stop referring to ourselves and start referring to our relationship as a single unit. So instead of saying, I’m going to a holiday party this weekend, you may instinctively say, we’re going to a holiday party this weekend. This change in language, tells you two things: you’re happy in your relationship and you’re in it for the long term.
7. A smooth compromise
In any healthy relationship, compromise is a key, but did you know that love makes it easier to compromise? The more love-struck you are, the more willing you are to compromise with your partner.
When you love someone you care about, their needs as much as your own, you want them to feel satisfied and supported, even if you have to give something up, but what if you’re not in love? If you’re in a relationship but not in love, you’re less willing to compromise your needs. You care about yourself more than your partner, so you’re more likely to be stubborn.
8. Cycle of appreciation
Loving partners want to make each other happy, so they enjoy doing favors and making small sacrifices, but love thrives off of gratitude. If you do your partner a favor but they don’t appreciate you, your feelings of love can backfire.
That disappointment will discourage you from doing your partner favors in the future, but what if your partner does appreciate your contributions? Their gratitude rewards and recognizes your love, and that keeps your partnership strong and healthy.
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