10 Tips to Co-Parenting With a Narcissist (Safely)


Number 10: Get a custody agreement.

One approach to simplify the procedure is to get a custody agreement, which can be done with the assistance of a lawyer. If your ex-partner tries to manipulate the situation in order to gain greater influence, the legal system may assist you in stopping this.

 A custody agreement should detail the child’s visitation schedule with each parent. It should provide the child’s whereabouts on a daily basis, including holidays. Parents should work closely together to protect their child’s interests. Joint physical custody is when children live with both parents for an extended period of time; certain jurisdictions demand a particular amount of parenting timeshare to qualify as joint physical custody.

Sole custody means that one parent has physical and legal custody of the child; joint custody means that both parents have access to the child. Once your agreement has been submitted and approved by the judge, it becomes a court order. This implies you can take the other parent to court if they breach it.

Number 9: Maintain you’re agreed-upon parenting schedules.

Once you’ve documented your legal agreements about parenting schedules, it’s critical to adhere to them. Develop a timetable that divides custody of the children between you and your ex-partner on particular days and holidays. After your divorce is finalized and your plan is established, you are left with the responsibility of implementing the framework you and your ex agreed upon.

 Naturally, this is far more difficult if your ex is a narcissist. When a narcissist feels condemned or reprimanded, their narcissistic behavior may really manifest, leaving you with a rather restricted toolset. The easiest thing you can do is depend on strong positive reinforcement whenever your ex follows the plan, even if it is tough. Bear in mind that the narcissist is dependent on the affirmation, and knowing that collaborating with you is a certain method to get it may be a powerful motivator.

Meanwhile, ensure that you record it every time they make a mistake. When positive reinforcement fails, legal action may be necessary. If you’ve been through a traumatic divorce, you understand that this is the last resort. The trick is to avoid using this as a threat until you’re really prepared to act since narcissists have a tendency to act out when threatened.

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