Recently, someone commented on one of my posts saying: “Is it possible the man I’m dating is not a full-fledged covert narcissist but just displays narcissistic tendencies once in a while?” “What if we enjoy a great time together and then end the day on a sour note because he calls me selfish or sends me pages of nasty text messages at night whenever I try to defend or explain myself.”
I’m making an article about this because this is such a common question that speaks directly to the typical abusive cycle of the narcissist, and their Jekyll-and-Hyde nature where you see this amazing incredible person on the one side that you have fun with, great s.e.x with, and magical moments, and then there’s the critical, condescending, manipulative, and nasty person on the other side.
The positive side is just so perfect and you want it so badly. If only they could change that negative stuff. Maybe you could help them with that, or maybe you figure you can handle it… you’ll just take the good and leave the bad, not realizing how destructive and damaging a narcissist can be. Just like an addiction, at first, they seem like the perfect drug, but as time goes on, they insidiously destroy every square inch of your life.
At first, it feels so good, but it comes at a huge price. Over time, you build tolerance… The highs get less high, and like a drug, you get addicted to the very thing that is slowly and systematically killing you. People who’ve realized that they are in a relationship with a narcissist will feel confused and uncertain about whether to leave. They think, What if I’m wrong? What if I’m making a mistake? Giving up too soon? Or maybe I need to just try a little harder?
And I get that you might feel like you need to be more certain… you want a higher level of confidence before leaving the relationship, but instead of getting clarity, you’ll get increasingly confused and emotionally battered. Giving this relationship a few more weeks can easily turn into losing years of your life caught up in the narcissist’s web of lies, deceptions, and psychological abuse.
In today’s article, I’m going to give you seven clues to determine whether your partner is a narcissist, and at the end of this article, I will give you the most compelling question that will give you the ultimate clarity on what to do about your relationship with a narcissistic person, regardless of whether they are a full-fledged narcissist.
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