Step 5: Talk to other people.
Talking to supportive friends and family members might help you feel less alone. But other individuals in your life may not give much (or any) support. Your close friends and family members who show compassion validate the suffering you’re going through and distract you or provide companionship on bad days, reminding you the abuse wasn’t your fault.
Some family members may sympathize with the abusive person. An abusive ex may have the support of mutual friends. This can lead to a lot of misunderstanding and hurt. As you attempt to rehabilitate, it’s generally beneficial to put limits around your time with these folks.
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You could, for example, ask them not to name your ex when they are in the room with you, or to refrain from discussing their thoughts on the matter with you. Consider reducing your time with them if they don’t respect such boundaries. Support groups also provide you the chance to speak up about the abuse you’ve suffered. You can share your story with others who are also trying to heal in a support group.
Step 6: Get professional help.
If it was difficult for you to leave the person who was abusing you, or if you are thinking about giving them another chance, a therapist may help you understand why you are feeling this way and establish a plan to prevent making unhelpful decisions in the future.
A therapist can also help you with: acquiring new coping abilities, informing others about the abuse, combating suicidal or self-harming ideas, overcoming temptations to contact the abusive person, and dealing with despair, anxiety, and other mental health concerns. Therapy can also help you understand the underlying issues that make you more sensitive to abuse patterns.
Therapy provides a safe environment in which a qualified, compassionate professional can assist you in exploring and understanding the jumble of feelings you’re trying to sort through. You can recover, although it may take some time. As you begin your journey, a therapist can help you feel more supported.
Step 7: Recall your ex’s narcissistic characteristics.
It is critical to remember that you were in a relationship with someone who was incapable of being a good partner. They’re not just a little conceited or self-assured. They could have a personality issue that can be diagnosed. They exaggerate their own self-importance. They’re obsessed with illusions of limitless success, intelligence, power, beauty, and perfect love. They assume that only elite or high-status people can comprehend them since they are distinctive and unique. They require a lot of admiration.
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Narcissists engage in predatory interpersonal conduct. They are devoid of empathy. They are envious of others and believe that others are envious of them. And they have haughty attitudes or actions. At least five of these nine characteristics are present in someone with a narcissistic personality disorder. Also, they require frequent praise and admiration. They make you feel unappreciated, unvalidated, and unaccepted. They don’t have any long-term friendships. And they are continuously criticizing you.
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