5. Reclaim yourself.
And finally, reclaim yourself. Being ourselves wasn’t allowed for so long but it can take us some time to figure out who we are without someone else calling all the shots. It’s finally okay to do what we want. Say no to things we are interested in and just be us. And that can be hard at first. We may not know who we are or what we want.
Talk this out with your therapist, try new things, and push yourself to start making small decisions. Maybe like what or where to eat. Don’t ask anyone else for their input, make that decision on your own. And making these small decisions will help build up our confidence, make us feel good about what we’re doing, and slowly but surely we can begin making bigger decisions without anyone else’s say so. And before we know it, we’ll have a better idea of what we like and don’t like have experiences to support those beliefs, and start to get to know ourselves in an honest and loving way.
A book: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
I know it’s hard to break free from an abusive relationship and narcissistic ones can be particularly difficult, especially because they try to tell us that we’re to blame, gaslight us so that we don’t think we can trust our own memories or thoughts, and they never apologize for what they’ve done. But give these tips of try, continue to go limited or no contact with the narcissist. And trust me when I tell you that your life will get better.
Read more: 3 Things The Narcissist SECRETLY TAKES From You
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