4. Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated.
Manipulation can be done invisibly. Fear, obligation, guilt, or another covert or even overt approach may be used by your manipulator. This is a fantastic strategy. Figure out your specific partner’s go-to methods, write them down and be aware of them if you don’t want to be misled.
Stop when you notice yourself being drawn into the web of the narcissist. Repeat the motive to yourself. Observe, not absorb. Give yourself a pep talk and remind yourself that you are not obligated to participate in this exchange just because you have been invited. It’s a good idea to practice saying the word no. Take a step back and disengage.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
3. Be true to yourself.
Make all of your life decisions based on what is best for you. Don’t even think about the narcissist’s best interests. The narcissist pattern of connecting has been all about what he or she wants, demands or requires, etc. With little regard for what you want or need, start thinking about what is best for you and then do it to break this unhealthy behaviour. Sure… there will be consequences and backlash; prepare for the worst.
But in order to recover from narcissistic abuse and grow into a healthy version of yourself, you must fight back. Allow no one to steal your happiness. Narcissists are deeply unhappy people who enjoy spreading their unhappiness to others. Recognize this truth and make a conscious effort to keep your emotions in check. Make an effort to identify something to feel grateful for.
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