Number 2: Listen more than you speak.
Especially with narcissists, the less said, the better for all kinds of reasons, not least of which you naturally command more respect when you sit back calmly, confidently, detached, and observe and pay attention to the room. You also learn a lot more about the dynamics, and you’ll pick up on your intuitive hits much more easily. You’ll be far less likely to ignore red flags when you do this too.
Furthermore, one of the best ways to show respect for others even when you don’t think they deserve it is to listen to what they have to say instead of always having to be the one who’s heard or has the last word. The more respectful we are toward them, even when we don’t think they deserve it, the more respect-worthy we are. Now, that means giving them your full attention, and not interrupting them when they’re speaking. The ability to listen, really genuinely sincerely listen is considered the most important quality of an effective leader.
So if you want to be respected by anyone, make sure you’re taking the time to really listen to what others have to say. It doesn’t mean you believe every word or you allow yourself to be held hostage to a conversational narcissist. What it means is you’ve cultivated the habit of listening way more than you speak, and you excuse yourself from the conversation when it’s time to do so.
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