Number 3: Spreading false information when rejected.
Rejection is painful for anyone, narcissist or not. How you deal with rejection determines if you are a hoovering narcissist or not. When rejecting a hoovering narcissist, they will begin to spread gossip as a form of retaliation. This gossip could be small, but enough to have people’s heads turn when you walk into a room. Sometimes, they can involve others as well. They may lie and say they caught you cheating with this person or that person.
Now, these lies may range from small white lies to large life-ruining lies. This is called smearing and will be discussed in the next point. When the victim confronts the narcissist about the lies, they may gaslight them. The narcissist will make them believe that they have no idea what they are talking about and these lies have hurt them as well. This will throw the victim off and they will begin to feel bad for the narcissist and try to make amends.
Number 4: Smearing.
Smearing is a narcissistic hoovering tactic that is another form of gossip. These extreme measures of lying have been known to go as far as ruining the reputation of the victim’s work life and relationships with loved ones. The hoovering narcissist may go as far as destroying the victim’s new relationship.
Rejecting a narcissist hoover can usually result in this tactic being used. Just like regular white lie gossip, the narcissist may gaslight the victim when they are confronted. They will make you alter your perception of reality and make you believe that maybe you are crazy coming to them with all of these accusations.
They may go as far with their lies and attempt to ruin your reputation with future employers so you can’t move up in your career. And they do this so you will run back to them while vulnerable and emotional and use them as a clutch. The narcissist will feel important and feel like their plan has worked.
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