1. You have trouble making decisions
You second-guess yourself constantly, you have a very real fear of making a mistake or that you will make the wrong decision. And this fear can be debilitating. Usually, If you are or have been exposed to long-term narcissistic abuse, making decisions, even some seemingly insignificant decisions, can be incredibly difficult to make.
The reason this happens is that we have been ridiculed and criticized, or even raged at for so many decisions that we’ve made in the past by the narcissist. Decisions that we wouldn’t have even thought would have amounted to anything. Nor did we think that we were making the wrong ones have been torn apart by the narcissist. We have been mocked humiliated, degraded, and insulted for any belief or perception that we had that did not align perfectly with the narcissist.
On top of that, narcissists are famous for constantly moving the goalposts. So no doubt, there have been many times that we believed we were making the decision the narcissist would have wanted us to make. And lo and behold, they explode enraged that we made a decision that we never dreamed they would have had an aversion to.
So many times, the narcissist only has this violent reaction to a decision that you made. Simply because they wanted to take an opportunity to make themselves feel superior to you. Most times that’s all it is. It’s not that you did or didn’t make the right decision, but rather, it’s just a great time for the narcissist to Gaslight you. Make you doubt yourself, degrade you, and make themselves feel superior and better than you. And this can result in extreme difficulty for the victim when it comes to making even the smallest of decisions.
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