4. Always have clear boundaries.
The fourth thing that I want you to do is to always have clear boundaries, I don’t want them to be muddled, I don’t want them to be confusing because if they’re confusing, they’re definitely confusing to the other person as well. And I also don’t want you to confuse somebody by being wishy-washy. Just like I said, if you’re wishy-washy and you don’t stand by them, the other person won’t respect them. And they damn sure will not help you to stand by those boundaries. So think about that.
I need you to set clear and concise boundaries based on understanding yourself of the query. This is important. This takes time and effort, but the coolest thing about that exercise is it begins to show you the inner you that you actually care about yourself. This goes a long way to eventually developing that unconditional love that so many people talk about. But it has to start here, and this is where it begins.
5. The narcissist will rarely take responsibility for their actions.
The fifth thing that I want you to realize is that it’s not all about them and that you’re not the one causing all the problems. Remember, the narcissist is rarely gonna take responsibility for anything, and I need you to know that. So when they’re pushing your buttons, when they’re gaslighting you, you need to have a sense of peace somehow.
That means that within your heart and mind, you have to know the truth. You don’t always have to argue it, and you don’t always have to fight it. But in order to keep your sanity in these situations, and not go to that level, you need to know it on the inside.
So being super mindful in any of these situations adds to the clarity because when you’re in a relationship with someone that has narcissistic tendencies or might be suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder, you need to know where you stand, because otherwise, you can clearly lose yourself very easily in a situation and be in an argument and have it escalate. Or begin to question your own sanity, or begin to question what really did happen in that situation, or what you really did see.
So, you need to have that clarity and understanding. And the only way to do that is to be super-mindful and be in the moment so that you can defend yourself or not really deal with it, but just know that this has nothing to do with you.
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