7. It’s all about them.
The next indication is that you’re constantly thinking about them, you’re putting them first. It’s all about them. You’re thinking about their emotional well-being, how they feel, how they’re thinking, how their day is, and you give little or no thought to your own well-being. You really come last in your own mind, and you’re trying to make sure that they’re okay, they’re fine.
But the interesting kind of confusing dynamic is that you’ve been told that you’re selfish and self-centered, and so you don’t understand how this all collaborates. You sit there and you’re thinking about them all the time, doing things for them and going out of your way to try to support them. But you’re being called selfish, you’re like: “maybe I need to do more, maybe I need to give more, or maybe I need to think about myself less and put them first.“ Something to think about.
8. You’ve cut out friends and family.
The last indication that I want to talk about, specifically in this article, is that you’ve actually managed to cut a lot of your friends and maybe some of your family out. You’ve cut them out for multiple reasons, but it’s because your significant other doesn’t get along with them. It makes it tougher and tougher to hang out with these folks because your significant other find all the faults in every one of them.
And after you hang out with them, literally they drive home, are they telling you about how horrible this person is and how many problems they have, and how they can’t believe that you spend time with them, or you can’t believe that you’re related to them? And because you don’t want to deal with the drama and you don’t want to hear it, you just kind of just start floating away from these folks.
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The other side of it is maybe some of these people might have actually said, “I don’t really like your significant other, or they’re kind of rude, or they’re kind of mean, or when I call over there they don’t like they’re not really kind or nice or warm.“ They’re starting to ask you questions that you don’t have answers for, so you’re starting to avoid on both sides.
So this is a very big indication because a lot of times subconsciously when we’ve made a choice that’s not healthy for us, and we know that other people might bring it up, we try to avoid it. We also don’t know all the answers to the questions yet, and that’s why you’re reading this article.
And so, if this article has helped you to understand a little more about your relationship to put it more in perspective, this may be the wake-up call you need to begin to see the relationship as it is, to not question yourself as you have been and to begin to get out of that emotional blender and get some clarity in the relationship, but in a bigger picture getting clarity in your life.
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