Number 4: She will fake being upset and hurt to lure you in more with lines like “everyone’s hurt me in the past” she does this to get you to be loyal to her.
Throughout the relationship, but especially in the beginning, the female covert narcissist will create fake scenarios to make you look like you’ve said or done something to hurt her, or she will simply pull away from you, and when you ask why she will play up her fears of being hurt. She’ll talk about how she’s been hurt by everyone in the past, how she’s afraid you’ll do the same thing, and what she’s doing here is eliciting promises from you.
She wants you to promise that you’re different, that you would never hurt her, never lie to her, cheat on her, and abandon her; all things she’ll probably do to you. But she wants to pull out as many promises from you as possible and get you to repeat them because she already knows you’re going to do everything in your power to keep your word.
Number 5: You are being sex bombed.
Now, the female covert narcissist often comes across initially as having a high sex drive and an openness to fulfill all of your sexual fantasies, but this is a tool. It’s a way to manipulate you, which she often uses along with love bombing to form a powerful combination that makes you feel like you just stepped into another dimension of reality.
So these first five flags are seen early on in the relationship, so if you are a loyal person with a strong protective instinct and a need to be needed, you are particularly vulnerable to falling prey to the female covert narcissist tactics and to missing these red flags.
Now, if you are already deeper into the relationship, you will also start to see these other red flags.
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