Number 4 : Inflexible empathy.
On the flip side, accountability might not be a problem for your partner. Instead, they might have unreasonably high expectations of you. Many narcissistic partners are extremely unforgiving if you’re five minutes late for a date. They’ll yell at you like you just crashed their car.
Narcissists expect you to be perfect at every turn and want you to do every single thing that they ask, no matter what. So the moment that you fail or disappoint them, your narcissistic partner is going to let you have it.
Number 5 : Requiring validation.
In the mind of a narcissist, nothing is worth doing unless someone is there to see it. They thrive when other people recognize their success. Those compliments inspire them and drive them. For example, if they work extra hard on a presentation at work, they’re not doing it because they care about their project, they’re putting in all those extra hours just to hear their boss tell them they did a great job, or to put their co-workers to shame.
But what happens when no one recognizes their work without any kind of validation? Narcissists either get lazy or get desperate. They start searching for compliments from everyone around them. Most importantly their significant other.
If your partner is constantly fishing for compliments, you might be dating a narcissist.
Number 6 : Violating the rules.
Narcissists hate being told what to do. They think that anyone who gives them orders is trying to put them down or make them look small. So they’ll do anything to prove how powerful they are, just to show people that no one can tell them what they can and can’t do. That’s why many narcissists make a habit of breaking rules. Not because they’re angry or defiant, they break their rules just to break them more often than not.
A Book: Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists.
Narcissists have a rap sheet of petty crimes, like stealing chips from a gas station. They’ll rarely do anything serious. They won’t rob a bank or steal a car. No, they won’t hurt anyone, but they’ll perform these small acts of defiance because they want to prove how fearless they are.
If you’re dating a narcissist, you might hear them bragging about running a stop sign or cutting in line. They’ll insist that it just doesn’t matter that the rules are just there to be broken.
But the truth is, you’re dating someone who’s really self-centered, who values their own time and space way more than anyone else. Which means you’re probably dating a narcissist.
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