Tip number one: Accept and surrender to the reality of the situation.
Really, this is the very first thing you need to do. Listen, in my own life, I’ve been there. I know how hard it is. We stay in the game with these people whether it’s narcissists in our family of origin, friends, romantic partners, spouses, even our bosses and colleagues and people at work. Sometimes we will stay in the game with these people for years, hoping that finally, we will be heard, understood, accepted, validated, loved, and supported in the ways in which we need to be validated, loved, and supported.
Unfortunately, we stay in this game in spite of evidence to the contrary, in spite of years and years of experience that tells us this is never going to change. This individual is never going to change. So the very first thing we need to do to break free from a narcissist forever is to accept and surrender to the reality of the situation.
So this requires that we become willing to step out of denial, that we become willing to drop the delusion and the magical thinking, and that we become willing to tell ourselves the dirt honest truth about what it is that we are living, what it is that we are seeing, what it is that we are feeling, what it is that we are experiencing time and time and time again.
Accept and surrender to the reality of the situation, step out of denial, drop the delusion, get freaking honest with yourself. Tell yourself the truth. Easier said than done, I know. But it is a vital, vital, vital first step.
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