3. It’s not your fault.
Another tactic that I used to overcome the injustice of what happened is to understand that no matter how personal the abuse from the narcissist felt, the reality is, that the narcissist would have and will treat anyone like they treated me given the opportunity. I wasn’t deserving of what happened. I am not responsible for what happened, and the narcissist will do this to his or her next victim.
I came to understand that I had been dealing with a human being who did not have a conscience, a human being who does not have the capacity to feel or experience shame, guilt, regret, remorse, or empathy. In many respects, the narcissists treated me the way they were made, with the emotions that they are capable of experiencing which are contempt, hatred, envy, and jealousy.
I was expecting to be treated like this person was a normal human being with normal amounts of humility and compassion. And narcissists are not made like that. They are not capable of that. So what happened really had nothing to do with me personally. Again, they would have and will treat and do to anyone what they did to me, given the opportunity.
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