Number 1: They play dumb.
When the narcissist realizes that you’re on to them, you’ve figured them out, you’ve seen behind the mask, and you’re not so easily duped, the first thing that will happen is they’ll play dumb like they have no idea what they’ve done to upset you, or what exactly it is that has caused you any discomfort. They’ll pretend that they can’t for the life of them understand why you would question their sincerity and their motives.
The reality of the situation or the very real impact their disturbing attitude behavior and choices have had on you completely escapes them according to them, and from there, they’ll find a way to play victim, which is point number two.
Number 2: Playing the victim.
The moment the narcissist realizes that they no longer have control over your perception of them or your perception of reality, in other words, you’re no longer buying what they’re selling, suddenly; they’ll be the one who has been wronged by you. No matter how poorly they themselves have behaved, they’ll claim to be completely innocent and misunderstood, when it’s clear that you see them as they really are as opposed to the false persona they work so hard to promote themselves as being.
And it’ll often sound like this: “No, that’s not what I said. That’s not what I did. I have no idea why you’re so upset! Why you’re reacting this way? What I’ve done to upset you? You’ve misunderstood and you’re just too sensitive. You’ve got me all wrong”.
In the hopes of appealing to your highly empathic and compassionate nature and generating sympathy from you as well as others, they’ll twist spin, and distort the facts according to their very selective memory, until you look and sound like the devil incarnate. No matter what they’ve done to you, you’ll be painted as the villain to their victim all day long to anyone who will listen.
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