But also with the 3 factors I have gone through, you can see why Narcissistic Supply is not all there is to it. Because even if someone is a good source of Narcissistic Supply and has resources or connections that the Narcissist would like; if that person develops strong healthy boundaries and have no issues telling the Narcissist no or calling them out on their crap, they become an undesired challenge for the Narcissist.
And if that person manages to keep or regain their independence and is not dependent on the Narcissist for anything; that further weakens the Narcissist’s control. And finally, if the target no longer views the Narcissist through rose-tinted glasses, the Narcissist knows that their game is up again. Because as the emotional ties are broken, the Narcissist will realize that the Narcissistic Supply that person provided is a lot more difficult to access.
So, it is important to the Narcissist that the targets they keep are fairly easy to manage or control. This would allow them to reserve some of their energy for their fresher sources of supply. Because as great a source of supply as that target can be if there are too many obstacles in place or the emotional investment is lost, that can turn a Narcissist off, at least for some time. This is why limiting contact or going no contact is essential because the Narcissist will seek to create a new strategy or plan when they are ready to target you again.
Conclusion.
But to conclude, choosing and keeping a target for a Narcissist requires certain specific criteria to be met. And as I always say, the Narcissist feels it should be their decision what relationships they keep and those they don’t. That is why when we flip the script and discard them as a result of waking up to the truth of what they are, it catches them off guard and severely bruises their ego.
And finally, if you do come across a Narcissist who has managed to keep someone for some time, it is not because they all of a sudden learned how to love and cherish anyone. It just means more times than not that that person is easier to manipulate and control. Meaning, there is a lack of boundaries, some form of dependency, or false hope. And this can all be down to a lack of knowledge on their part, cognitive dissonance, and more.
But that’s a whole other topic, which I have covered already here. But that’s it for today. Many thanks for reading.
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