3. Set Boundaries.
When somebody jumps in and breaks that I.E, makes fun of me, ridicules me, manipulates me using my feelings, gaslights me, and any of those types of things, that’s where the boundary is. That’s when you have to cut it off, that’s when you have to show what’s happening pinpoint it and spotlight it. Not in a horribly negative way, but hey, this is not acceptable. This isn’t something that I’m going to accept in my life.
And I feel that a lot of times when we’re going through toxic relationships, and I’ve worked with many clients, I see that we go through the shell shock, we go through the fear, we go through the walking on eggshells, and we go through all this. And it’s not until we come out the other side, are we able to really focus on ourselves, give ourselves the time to understand what makes us tick. This is so important.
4. Start Writing In a Journal.
If you want to start writing down, get a journal. And I know some of you go: Oh journal! That’s a horrible word. I can’t stand that, I don’t want a journal. I hate journaling. And I understand it, but we got to jump the hump somehow. It’s like doing the work to understand who you are, and it might take some of this journaling that people hate.
But I need you to start writing down your values. What are some things that you live by on a daily basis? What are the values that you really believe in? And what are the things that are highly important to you? What are the make-it and break-it things in your life? Independence is one of my major top values.
Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
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