Number 5: “What do you want from me?”
This is a phrase often used by someone who is pretending to feel victimized. And the narcissist will pretend to feel victimized anytime someone else has a legitimate want, need, or desire that requires setting a limit or a boundary. In other words, the fact that you have healthy and legitimate wants, needs, and desires of your own, that you have reasonable limits and boundaries, well, this will be an issue for the narcissist guaranteed. How dare you expect them to show up when they say they will do what they say they would do, when they said they would do it? How dare you expect them to say what they mean and mean what they say? Who do you think you are?
This too, of course, will be all your fault. Remember, blame-shifting, deflecting, justifying, rationalizing, and projecting are standard operating procedures for narcissistic people. And this boils down to the fact that they are fully, fundamentally, and constitutionally incapable of accepting and owning responsibility for themselves, their choices, their attitudes, and the consequences of their behavior.
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Number 6: “I didn’t say that.”
It should be clear by now that a narcissist is running their own agenda. And that agenda includes keeping you in a state of confusion, fear, and insecurity while keeping themselves in a perceived position of superiority. And in order to accomplish that, they’ll go out of their way to knock you off balance and keep you there by saying things and then fully denying they ever said the thing. And when confronted with the facts, including any black or white evidence that you might have in your possession, narcissistic people will often maintain that they didn’t say that.
They’ll try to convince you that they didn’t say what they know full well they said and you heard, or when they’re left with no alternative, you took it wrong, they didn’t mean it that way. And, of course, you misunderstood and are getting it all wrong again. And the truth is covert narcissists played this game a lot, and if you want to learn more about covert narcissism, you can read this article here.
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